Lela Beem is a yoga therapist and the co-founder of Grateful Yoga of Evanston. Lela is also the co-founder of Amala School of Yoga, which specializes in training yoga teachers how to teach prenatal and postnatal yoga yearly in Chicago. She is a graduate of UMASS Amherst, a certified Kripalu yoga instructor and a Phoenix Rising Yoga Therapy practitioner. Lela is a certified yoga therapist (C-IAYT) through the International Association of Yoga Therapy.
Dr. Ray Charles is a best-selling author and speaker, and travels the globe training leaders, and future leaders, on Righteous Leadership.
Since 1993, at a time when the word “coach” was, generally, only associated with sports or executive coaching, Dr Ray has been a faithful pioneer in the field of spiritual coaching – coaching leaders including: business, civic, government, clergy and, sports and entertainment leaders to lead from a position of righteousness. continue reading
Dina Collins is the founder of Soul Walks by Dina and an energetic Soulful Nature Photographer who inspires herself and others with the help of her lens to explore nature. continue reading
Dee Crowley is an Intuitive Holistic Psychotherapist in private practice in the Chicago area, and the founder of Solace, A Gathering Space. She holds the philosophy that events effect our whole being— physical, emotional, cognitive, energetic and spiritual. She earned her Masters Degree in Social Work from Loyola University School of Social Work in Chicago.
After some conversations with clients, I noticed that usually when we use the word “should” it’s not very empowering. “I should” or “you should” seems to be negative. We are typically using it to berate or shame ourselves (or someone else) for not living up to a standard – it implies we are not OK as we are. Or we are using it to limit ourselves or others – it seems to imply there is just one right way or right answer. As a parent, I want to start questioning my motives anytime I say something to my kids that starts with “You should” – what is my intention? Am I imposing my own limiting beliefs on them? Am I trying to shame them? Am I trying to get them to be something I want them to be instead of the wonderful beings they are?
Last week when I was hiking in Indiana, I felt a strong need for grounding. It was warm out, so I took off my hiking boots. It felt so good that I wanted to hike barefoot – and immediately I thought “I shouldn’t”. But when I questioned that assumption, I realized my only reason was because that’s not what people do – everyone else was wearing boots or shoes and I didn’t want to get muddy/dirty. So I hiked barefoot through the paths – mud and all, and it was glorious. Yes, my feet and socks got muddy, but guess what? The mud washed off! I had to go through the same mental exercise when I wanted to lay down on the ground without a blanket.
One of my clients shared that she would always feel badly after the weekend because there was a list of things she “should” have done. Instead of beating herself up for not getting her “shoulds” done over the weekends, she created a new framework for herself. She had goals about being more creative, active and fun – so she set goals to do one creative thing, one physical activity and something fun. She focuses on accomplishing that goal instead of a lot of “shoulds” and reports she is much happier.
The next time you hear the word “should” come out of your mouth, take a minute to reflect. Are you about to limit or shame yourself or others? If so, it’s a great opportunity to treat yourself with more compassion or to examine your limiting beliefs.
Allison J. Ewing, is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (L.C.S.W.) who has been practicing social work for over 20 years. Allison spent many years providing mental health treatment to inner city youth and families involved in the child welfare system, working primarily with children and adolescents who have had histories of extensive developmental trauma. As time went on, Allison began applying mind/body techniques to her work, beginning initially with mindfulness and meditation, and later EFT. Two years ago, Allison decided to open her own private practice, Inspired Life Tapping LLC., using EFT exclusively, after time and again witnessing powerful results and quick relief for her clients. She now specializes in working with women who are experiencing stress and anxiety as well as fears/phobias, have a history of childhood trauma, and/or who are struggling with weight issues and feel “weighed down” by emotional burdens in life. Allison strives to help women move out of feeling “stuck” in life because of stress and fears holding them back and move into feeling more free, passionate and fulfilled by their lives.
Lisa Faremouth Weber E-RYT, RCYP, RPYT, IAYT is a Certified Yoga Teacher, Certified Sacred Lomi, Shiatsu Bodyworker and licensed BeMoved® Dance Fitness Instructor. She is the founder and facilitator of The Illuminated Soul 200 Hour Yoga Teacher Training and the CEO of Heaven Meets Earth Yoga studio in Evanston, Illinois.
Annie Fitzgerald is a leadership and life coach. Annie came to coaching because she needed to be coached. She had two small kids who never slept and her husband had been diagnosed with terminal cancer a couple of years before. She was S.T.U.C.K, filled with anxiety, and exhausted. Coaching moved her forward and shifted her perspective of life from one of struggle to one of gratitude and joy. continue reading
Matt Gil is an International Best Selling Author, Transformational Coach, Inspirational Speaker & Youth and Family Personal Development Coach, and Host for various media projects. Matt is dedicated to empowering people to define, embrace and LIVE in their greatness. Through coaching, writing and sharing special moments, Matt has touched the lives of thousands of lives. continue reading